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As a woman, does the following sound familiar to you?:
- Constant feelings of inadequacy, even though you’re being praised for excellent work.
- Self-doubt when it comes to making big decisions.
- Non-stop comparisons to colleagues
- Negative self-talk
- Feeling like a fraud even though you have achieved many goals
You’re not alone. Statistics show that imposter syndrome, which encompasses the above-mentioned emotions and actions, is especially prevalent in the workplace. Overcoming these feelings and building on your proven competence at work or even in your personal life, starts with accepting yourself for who you are.
Do people call you quirky? Embrace it! Have you heard yourself being referred to as highly intelligent? Believe it!
Your skills and talents are unique to you and doesn’t have to be compared to the skills and talents of others, simply because success is relative. Other people’s success doesn’t define yours.
Don’t be prohibited by negative self-talk
Negative self-talk plays a big role in imposter syndrome. You might be telling yourself that the only reason you are excelling at what you do, is because of luck or because of good timing. You can turn this type of negative self-talk around by changing your internal script. Ask yourself whether your internal dialogue you’re having are based on fact or emotion. Are they helping or hindering your path to success. Once you can separate your thoughts from the truth, you’re on your way to a more positive dialogue which will lead to good things in your career and personal life.
Don’t forget to credit yourself for wins
Suffering from imposter syndrome makes it easy for a person to heap praise on colleagues and friends, while ignoring the fact that they too were instrumental in success. Don’t leave yourself out of the celebrations.
Picture success instead of disaster
Imposter syndrome makes it too easy to focus on everything that could go wrong. Visualising success instead of disaster will go a long way in beating stress and anxiety. Make a point of it to picture both short- and long-term goals from a personal perspective while constantly encouraging yourself to reach them.
Overcoming imposter syndrome starts with a choice
Before you can change negative self-talk, encourage yourself to reach goals and happily join in celebrations for big wins, you must make the choice to turn things around. Make the choice to be confident in your talents and skills. Choose to believe that your expertise is valuable.
Let go of trying to do things according to other people’s opinions of perfect and know that everything you do in your career and personal life is important, relevant and of high worth.